What do you think about this?

About 2 weeks ago I caught my husband sending emails back and forth to a woman. he was being very flirty saying things like "if i weren't married..." and "i ama great kisser and love legs". Stuff like that. It was "harmless" flirting. Except that it wasn't, it hurt me and our relationship. I came home tonight and found on his computer a bunch of pictures of celebrities in short skirts and little tiny dresses. Normally I would't care, but under the circumstances I got mad all over. I also found a page book marked on his webbrowser to another myspace page with the screen name "irishxcutie". it is some girl from 10 states away. and i also found some graphic IM's that he saved that were cyber sex. he says i am overreacting. Am I? I keep telling myself I forgive him and then soemthing like this happens and I am mad all over again. I need to move past this! Am i overrreacting to the whole situation?

What do you think about this?

he's cheating plain and simple. i'd say some counseling couldn't possibly hurt the marriage. but he's cheating so, i'd say you would be better off finding someone who will truly appreciate you.

What do you think about this?

Maybe you should re-evaluate how you act around your husband. Have you been nagging him too much lately? Getting upset over trivial things and turning it into an argument? Have you not been holding up your end of the deal in bed? Letting yourself go?

Guys don't do stuff like that if they're happy with you. Do a little self-reflection and see if you've been slacking off.

What do you think about this?

I never had any desire to cheat on my horrible ex-girlfriend when she was loving and caring towards me. It was only when her demands for attention and money got out of control that I had any desire to look for an alternative.

I now have a girlfriend whom may be marriage material. She is a delight to be with and we have been together for nearly 2 years. She will make a wonderful wife and I have little doubt that I would have any desire to cheat on her.

Look and see if you stand up as a good wife. No, your husband should not be flirting around. But he won't be INTERESTED in flirting around if you hold up your end of the bargain by being a good and caring wife.

I would also strongly advise AGAINST counselling. These people make money by feeding the misery and re-opening old wounds. They have no interest, personal or professional, in helping you in your marriage.